Is This Fair or Just?

The abuser forced their partner out of the house because of escalating control, threats to harm/kill, and increasing violence.

The survivor produced 21 pieces of evidence of abuse - each piece supported in multiple documents, including audio recordings of abuse and threats to harm. (Not a he-said, she-said - solid proof of harm and abuse).

The abuser was able to:

  • Keep all assets and earn interest on a large amount of money for 2.5 years before paying what was owed by law

  • Avoid having to pay spousal or child support

  • Was granted the ability to hide the payment to their spouse as an ‘equalization’ so there was no proof of abuse

  • Was able to deny all wrongdoing of harm

  • Was ordered to pay his survivor by a judge’s consent order - then stalled for months, refusing to pay and sending documents that were not what the judge ordered, a document with new had extra clauses, then had spelling mistakes, then were missing essential information - creating months of unnecessary delays

  • When the abuser finally paid, it was a personal cheque so the bank had to hold it for another week before the money was given to his survivor

  • Had a judge order the survivor to have limitations on their life but none were placed on the abuser

  • Was able to pay for and have legal representation through the entire process so they always had a skilled person looking out for their best interest and knowing the laws - while running his survivor out of money so she couldn’t afford a lawyer

  • Cannot ever be sued for damages

  • Was able to purchase a new home with the sale of the matrimonial house while he delayed and ran the victim out of the housing market

  • Always had financial abundance and the ability to purchase anything they wanted while he delayed and pushed the victim into poverty

  • Was able to manipulate the process and their partner during the legal process - created more harm and abuse as a result of their behaviour and delay the process and no one questioned, stopped, or checked his behaviour - while she was triggered into debilitating PTSD and significant harm

    This is family court. Does it seem fair or just to you?

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