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I didn’t set out to tell my story of abuse, nor did I imagine I’d become an advocate for change.

Like many survivors, I wanted my story to end when I left my abuser. I wanted to move on with my life and never look back.

He had other plans.

I thought we would move through the legal process quickly and easily. I had a stack of evidence of abuse, I wanted to have my half of our assets and be compensated for my contribution to his career and for the abuse my children and I endured. I hadn’t done anything wrong and was sure the law would support me and hold him to account.

I have never been so wrong in my life.

Delays, being re-traumatized, forced into poverty, having no legal representation, attempts to continue to control me and dictate my life were just the start. I had to accept less than deserved because the only other choice would be more harm to me and prolonging the nightmare.

When he tried to silence me and force me out of my freedom, I knew I needed to stand up and speak up.

When the system failed me and I shared it with others, they were incredulous.

As I’ve found other survivors, they all tell the same story. Not only were we abused by our partners - we are abused by the system.

It is time to change what’s happening - hold abusers to account - allow survivors to be free and heal.